Gender Transition and Living “One’s True Self” Are Different Things
November 24, 2017
Why This Sudden Trans-Kids Trend?
February 4, 2018
I Wasn’t ‘Annoyed’ At Your Misgendering Me
February 10, 2018
Tales of Transition: The Landscaper & The Ice Cream Man
February 16, 2018
Coming Out Trans To Your Children
February 18, 2018
The Long Journey to Self-Acceptance
February 20, 2018
Not All Of Us Are Victims, Villains, Serial Killers & Sex Workers
February 24, 2018
I Like “Bisexual;” I Like “Pansexual” More. Here’s Why
November 16, 2018
Trans Women And The Danger of a Single Story
November 16, 2018
Trans 101 with my Lyft Driver
December 20, 2018
February 7, 2019
Trans Women May Soon Give Birth
May 6, 2019
Living My Best Life — They Tell Me
June 23, 2019
Are Lesbians Who Don’t Sleep With Trans Women Bigots?
July 6, 2019
Sex, Gender, Orientation, Presentation
July 11, 2019
The Brighter Test - Rules for Trans Representation
September 27, 2019
So Much Living Yet To Do
October 10, 2019
“You Can’t Talk Gender To A Child” — And Other LIES You Tell
October 11, 2019
On Dysphoria — Before, Enduring, and After
October 13, 2019
Choosing a New Name
October 28, 2019
David Bowie's Magic Mask
November 3, 2019
Skirting Gender: A Common Mistake Made by Parents of Trans Kids
August 9, 2020
“This is how you can feel brave in the world.” By Cassie Brighter I ran into this story about David Bowie. While I’m a big fan of authenticity and not wearing masks, I found this story to be charming, and its message empowering. Anyway, read on – and you...
Names are funny little things. A name is a single word that represents an entire individual. From nothing more than a person’s first name you can make a whole host of assumptions, many of which will be true, and many will be false. You can deduce gender, ethnicity, social...
A trans mom shares insights on coming out to one’s kids by Cassie Brighter I just recorded a video with my recollections from my process of coming out to my kids — and our journey together through my evolution from “Dad” to “Mom.” I figured I’d post a recap...
Be careful not to trade one mask for another. by Cassie Brighter I was drawn to this news piece about Caitlyn Jenner’s assertions that the Kardashians have not spoken to her for a couple of years. Reading the piece, something that I found odd and off-putting is this sentence: “Caitlyn’s...
A Trans Woman’s Perspective By Cassie Brighter (…) Last fall I experienced a very strange emotional moment. I had woken up late on a Saturday, and was lost in thought in bed. More accurate would be to say I was feeling, rather than thinking. Suddenly I was overcome by...
The things you DON’T say to them can create a loud silence We often engage in gendered or gender-affirming (or even gender enforcing) words and actions with our kids. We use this to bond with them (girls’ mani-pedi day, mall clothes shopping for girls, sports or cars or such...
You do it all the time. You’ve been doing it for years. By Cassie Brighter The stance of “you can’t talk about gender with children” is so deeply hypocritical. Adults speak gender to children ALL THE DAMN TIME. “Trucks are for boys.” “She’s such a pretty young lady.” “I...
Where are all these trans kids coming from? Some people are skeptical of this “new trend” of kids coming out as trans & non-binary at an early age. Why are there suddenly so many? I’ll tell you why. Because they’re less afraid of you people. I suspected, at nine....